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Emotional and Behavioural Regulation Strategies for High-Functioning Children on the Autism Spectrum



Raising a high-functioning child on the autism spectrum brings unique joys and challenges. Among the challenges is helping your child learn to regulate their emotions and behaviors. These children often possess exceptional skills and talents but may struggle with emotional outbursts, anxiety, or difficulty in social situations. Here are some effective strategies to support emotional and behavioral regulation in high-functioning children with autism.


Emotional regulation refers to a child's ability to manage and respond to their emotional experiences in a healthy and socially acceptable way. Behavioral regulation involves controlling one's actions and impulses. For children on the spectrum, difficulties in these areas can stem from sensory sensitivities, communication challenges, and struggles with understanding social cues.


Strategies for Emotional and Behavioural Regulation


1. Create a Predictable Routine

Consistency and predictability provide a sense of security for children on the spectrum. Establishing a daily routine helps them know what to expect, reducing anxiety and helping them feel more in control.

  • Visual Schedules: Use visual schedules to outline daily activities. Visual cues can be more accessible than verbal instructions and provide a constant reminder of what comes next.

  • Consistent Timing: Maintain consistent timing for activities like meals, homework, and bedtime.

2. Teach Emotional Literacy

Helping your child understand and label their emotions is a crucial step in regulation.

  • Emotion Charts: Use emotion charts with faces showing different emotions. Encourage your child to point to how they feel.

  • Modeling: Model appropriate emotional responses. Show how to express feelings calmly and discuss how you manage your emotions.

  • Books and Stories: Read books or watch shows that talk about emotions and discuss them together.

3. Use Sensory Tools

Sensory sensitivities can significantly impact emotional regulation. Providing sensory tools can help your child manage sensory overload or seek sensory input.

  • Fidget Toys: Fidget spinners, stress balls, or other small objects can help children focus and stay calm.

  • Weighted Blankets or Vests: These provide calming pressure that can help reduce anxiety.

  • Quiet Spaces: Create a sensory-friendly space where your child can retreat to when they feel overwhelmed.

4. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques

Teaching your child mindfulness and relaxation techniques can empower them to manage their emotions.

  • Deep Breathing: Teach deep breathing exercises. For example, have them imagine blowing up a balloon or smelling a flower.

  • Mindfulness Activities: Simple activities like guided imagery, listening to calming music, or progressive muscle relaxation can be beneficial.

  • Yoga: Gentle yoga can help with relaxation and body awareness.

5. Implement Positive Reinforcement

Positive reinforcement encourages desired behaviors by rewarding them.

  • Token Systems: Use a token system where your child earns tokens for positive behavior, which can be exchanged for a preferred activity or item.

  • Praise and Rewards: Offer specific praise for good behavior, such as “I’m proud of you for using your words instead of yelling.” Small rewards can also be effective.

6. Social Stories and Role-Playing

Social stories and role-playing can help your child understand social situations and appropriate responses.

  • Social Stories: Create or use existing social stories that describe specific scenarios and appropriate behavior.

  • Role-Playing: Role-play different situations with your child to practice responses and behaviors.

7. Develop Problem-Solving Skills

Teaching problem-solving skills helps your child navigate challenges independently.

  • Identify Problems: Help your child identify what the problem is when they feel upset.

  • Brainstorm Solutions: Encourage them to think of possible solutions and discuss the potential outcomes of each.

  • Practice Decision-Making: Let your child make choices and decisions to build confidence and independence.

8. Seek Professional Support

Don’t hesitate to seek support from professionals like therapists, counselors, or behavioral specialists who have experience working with children on the autism spectrum.

  • Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA): ABA therapy can help develop strategies for behavior regulation.

  • Occupational Therapy: Occupational therapists can provide sensory integration therapy and other support.

  • Counseling: A counselor or psychologist can work with your child on emotional regulation and coping strategies.

  • Arts-Based Therapy: Arts-based therapy, including art, music, dance, and drama therapy, can provide a creative outlet for expressing emotions and exploring feelings. These therapies can help children on the spectrum develop self-awareness, improve communication skills, and reduce anxiety. The non-verbal nature of arts-based therapy can be particularly beneficial for children who struggle with traditional verbal communication.







Helping a high-functioning child on the autism spectrum develop emotional and behavioural regulation skills is a continuous and evolving process. With patience, consistency, and the right strategies, you can support your child in building these crucial skills, leading to greater independence and improved well-being.

Remember, every child is unique, so it may take some experimentation to find the strategies that work best for your child. Celebrate the small victories and remain a steady source of support and encouragement.


Zill Botadkar

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